Walking In Your Own Grass
One day it will happen.
You will have children.
But for now cherish each day God has given you without children!!!
What?
Did I just say that?
YES I DID!!!!!
That may be a hard thought, and I understand infertility can consume,
God lovingly chastised me one day that I was wasting my life wishing for a future life - I was living for the "one day". I was not embracing the moment. Once God showed me that, I chose to LIVE differently...
The grass always looks greener on the other side, but you are on YOUR SIDE, so don't spend all your energy and time wishing and dreaming about a different life with kids.
Its ok to desire, but SO MANY TIMES, for me, that desire robbed me of the present blessings. You have to be careful to keep your mind and heart in balance.
1. Walk in your own grass
Don't try to walk on someone else's grass. Stay out of their yard : ) haha
Embrace your LIFE, YOUR GRASS! Roll in it...smell it (cause later it will smell like dirty diapers) LOL!
In other words - embrace where you are at in your life...Plop down on your grass, rest in the Lord, and be blessed where you are at right now in life!
("embrace your grass" figuratively not literally...hahaha)
2. Have no regrets
I did not want to get to motherhood and think... "WOAH! I had so much time and ability to DO THINGS...what did I even accomplish?" I have enjoyed spending MORE time on things like bible study, learning new recipes, reading, ...etc.
Don't have regrets. One month you will get pregnant and you don't want to think - "Oh I should have done such-and-such, cause now I have to focus on pregnancy".
3. Enjoy the moment
You don't have kids, so enjoy that! Trust me. I understand hard days of infertility, but my mind set was wrong many of those days. I missed so much of what God had for me. Don't miss out on the NOW! Don't let your obsessions with wanting a baby blur your vision of what God has right in front of you today... And if you have to pray a bazillion times a day for God to help you - do it! CHOOSE to love your life TODAY and LIVE IT!!!!!
You will have children.
But for now cherish each day God has given you without children!!!
What?
Did I just say that?
YES I DID!!!!!
That may be a hard thought, and I understand infertility can consume,
but here's a little tough LOVE...
YOU HAVE TO LIVE YOUR LIFE GOD HAS FOR YOU NOW.
God lovingly chastised me one day that I was wasting my life wishing for a future life - I was living for the "one day". I was not embracing the moment. Once God showed me that, I chose to LIVE differently...
The grass always looks greener on the other side, but you are on YOUR SIDE, so don't spend all your energy and time wishing and dreaming about a different life with kids.
Its ok to desire, but SO MANY TIMES, for me, that desire robbed me of the present blessings. You have to be careful to keep your mind and heart in balance.
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Four things I learned, that helped me,
and I pray they will help you too.
Four things I learned, that helped me,
and I pray they will help you too.
1. Walk in your own grass
Don't try to walk on someone else's grass. Stay out of their yard : ) haha
Embrace your LIFE, YOUR GRASS! Roll in it...smell it (cause later it will smell like dirty diapers) LOL!
In other words - embrace where you are at in your life...Plop down on your grass, rest in the Lord, and be blessed where you are at right now in life!
("embrace your grass" figuratively not literally...hahaha)
2. Have no regrets
I did not want to get to motherhood and think... "WOAH! I had so much time and ability to DO THINGS...what did I even accomplish?" I have enjoyed spending MORE time on things like bible study, learning new recipes, reading, ...etc.
Here is a thought, tho, that I DID NOT learn early on in my infertility.
I learned it later, but wish I would have had this advice earlier...
When you are trying to get pregnant you live life from month to month,
SOOO when you realize you didn't get pregnant this month, have your
moment of sadness and cry to God, BUT DON'T DWELL THERE!!!!
I dwelled in that sadness TOO much and wish someone would have lovingly
corrected me and told me NOT TO!!!! Have your moment of disappointment.
That's ok. Pray, feel God's love, THEN think about what you can accomplish
in the next month of not being pregnant and BE PRODUCTIVE!!!
Infertility can suck the life out of you, but you can choose to not let it...I learned this later...
Don't have regrets. One month you will get pregnant and you don't want to think - "Oh I should have done such-and-such, cause now I have to focus on pregnancy".
3. Enjoy the moment
You don't have kids, so enjoy that! Trust me. I understand hard days of infertility, but my mind set was wrong many of those days. I missed so much of what God had for me. Don't miss out on the NOW! Don't let your obsessions with wanting a baby blur your vision of what God has right in front of you today... And if you have to pray a bazillion times a day for God to help you - do it! CHOOSE to love your life TODAY and LIVE IT!!!!!
4. A list of things to do B4 kids
~Enjoy a cup of tea (with no ball knocking it over)
~Eat chocolate ANY TIME without having to sneak a piece. HAHA!
~Do intense Bible studies. I've spent ALL day many times!!!!
~WEAR WHITE!!!
~Save money. You'll be glad you did when the kid comes
~Go to the bathroom. ALONE. That's a luxury for you now!!!! hee hee
~Save money. You'll be glad you did when the kid comes
~Go to the bathroom. ALONE. That's a luxury for you now!!!! hee hee
~Enjoy those spontaneous dates with your husband.
~Enjoy anything spontaneous...
~Travel.
~Enjoy anything spontaneous...
~Travel.
~Eat a hot meal. Yes, piping HOT, & eat the whole thing all in one sitting!
~Shop till you drop (without a tantrum)
~Flaunt your sexy nighties. You go girl!
~Take a class. Learn something you've always wanted - a painting class, horse-riding lessons, a few nursing classes...whatever...
~Flaunt your sexy nighties. You go girl!
~Take a class. Learn something you've always wanted - a painting class, horse-riding lessons, a few nursing classes...whatever...
~Check facebook...GUILT FREE!!! ON YOUR COUCH, with your coffee(not in the bathroom with locked doors and little fingers poking underneath!)
~Spend money on YOURSELF!
~Go ahead...take that Nyquil!!! Roflol
~Take a long nap.
~EAT DESSERT FIRST!!!
SO...
STEP ONTO YOUR GOD GIVEN PATCH OF GRASS & ENJOY DOING SOMETHING!!!!!!!!!
Remember the grass is probably greener on the other side cause it's over the septic tank or its fake!!!! hahaha So many times we wish for something we think is "better", but remember what God has for us is perfect. It's all about perspective.
Of course, on point #4, I could've probably made a list of 100 things, but wanted to keep it short... I'd love to hear your ideas - what would you add to this list that you would do
~Take a long nap.
~EAT DESSERT FIRST!!!
Remember the grass is probably greener on the other side cause it's over the septic tank or its fake!!!! hahaha So many times we wish for something we think is "better", but remember what God has for us is perfect. It's all about perspective.
Of course, on point #4, I could've probably made a list of 100 things, but wanted to keep it short... I'd love to hear your ideas - what would you add to this list that you would do
Love & prayers to all my ladies I pray for that deal with infertility - I call it my HannahClub and I still pray each tuesday!!!!
I LOVE YOU. GOD LOVES YOU...
Walking by faith,
DeAna
